Thursday, January 20, 2011

Loss and hope

A friend that I haven't seen in a really long time came over for a visit today with her three boys.

Our kids had fun terrorizing each other and making a mess. And as mothers - we were constantly refereeing the mayhem.

In between the yelling and the playing, my friend asked me about my pregnancy. Questions about how I was feeling and what it was like to be pregnant again so soon after losing Sawyer.

Everytime a question came up, one of our children were about to hurl themselves off a chair or decided that the toy somebody else had was worth beating each other up over.

Amidst our shouts of discipline, I didn't really get a chance to answer...

But the thing is, she asked me things that no one ever asks - questions that I think a lot of people are afraid to ask.

But, at that moment, it meant the world to me that someone was acknowledging my pain, my loss - and my hope.

7 comments:

LetterstoClaire said...

It must take some amount of courage for people to ask us how we are doing- at least, that's the only explanation I have for the reason why so many don't. I'm glad someone asked you, it's a good example of "it's the thought that counts." I gave you a blogger award on my new post (I'm sure you already have it, but I like your blog too much to not give you a shot out)

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Laurie said...

I read this post before, but re-read today and just, I'm glad for people who ask the questions people are afraid to ask. We live it all everyday in our heads (the answers to these questions, or maybe sometimes, only just the questions themselves.) So when someone allows us to exist outside of our head for a moment, comfortably - it is a relief and appreciated. I'm glad that friend was there for you!